{"id":25681,"date":"2024-02-24T18:16:09","date_gmt":"2024-02-24T11:16:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/feltjungle.com\/?p=25681"},"modified":"2024-06-26T20:48:25","modified_gmt":"2024-06-26T13:48:25","slug":"khen-hieu-qua","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/feltjungle.com\/tin-tuc\/khen-hieu-qua\/","title":{"rendered":"Khen hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3, t\u01b0\u1edfng d\u1ec5 m\u00e0 kh\u00f3!"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 bi\u1ebft t\u00e1c d\u1ee5ng tuy\u1ec7t v\u1eddi c\u1ee7a l\u1eddi khen \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n c\u1ee7a con tr\u1ebb. Th\u1ebf nh\u01b0ng, khen ng\u1ee3i kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00fang c\u00e1ch \u0111\u00f4i l\u00fac c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 g\u00e2y ra ph\u1ea3n t\u00e1c d\u1ee5ng v\u00e0 r\u1ebd sang m\u1ed9t h\u01b0\u1edbng ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n kh\u00e1c, khi\u1ebfn tr\u1ebb kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00fang ho\u1eb7c t\u1ef1 cao khi tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh. V\u1eady l\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 \u0111\u01b0a ra \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t l\u1eddi khen hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3?<\/p>\n

M\u1ed9t \u201cchi\u1ebfn l\u01b0\u1ee3c\u201d khen ng\u1ee3i ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p s\u1ebd gi\u00fap b\u1eadc cha m\u1eb9 d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau h\u01a1n, h\u00e3y c\u00f9ng UTS kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ec3 khen hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 th\u00f4ng qua b\u00e0i vi\u1ebft d\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y nh\u00e9!<\/p>\n

Th\u1ebf n\u00e0o l\u00e0 \u201ckhen hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3\u201d?<\/span><\/h2>\n

L\u1eddi khen hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o vi\u1ec7c c\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c v\u00e0 h\u00e0nh vi c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3. Ngh\u0129a l\u00e0, ch\u00fang ta khen ng\u1ee3i m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c m\u00e0 c\u00e1c con \u0111\u00e3 b\u1ecf ra \u0111\u1ec3 ho\u00e0n th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t vi\u1ec7c g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3; ho\u1eb7c khen ng\u1ee3i m\u1ed9t h\u00e0nh vi c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3 m\u00e0 c\u00e1c con \u0111\u00e3 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n. V\u00ed d\u1ee5, thay v\u00ec li\u00ean t\u1ee5c n\u00f3i “con gi\u1ecfi l\u1eafm” hay “l\u00e0m t\u1ed1t l\u1eafm”, cha m\u1eb9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0a ra l\u1eddi n\u00f3i chi ti\u1ebft b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch m\u00f4 t\u1ea3 c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3 con \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m t\u1ed1t nh\u1eefng g\u00ec v\u00e0 c\u1ea7n l\u00e0m nh\u1eefng g\u00ec \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n.<\/p>\n

Gi\u00e1o s\u01b0 Carol Susan Dweck<\/em> t\u1ea1i \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc Standford (M\u1ef9) khi nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u v\u1ec1 \u201cT\u00e1c d\u1ee5ng l\u1eddi khen v\u1edbi tr\u1ebb em\u201d<\/strong> <\/a>\u0111\u00e3 ch\u1ec9 ra r\u1eb1ng, vi\u1ec7c khen ng\u1ee3i n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c c\u1ee7a con s\u1ebd t\u1ea1o \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u1ef1c cho con l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c ch\u0103m ch\u1ec9 h\u01a1n, l\u00e2u h\u01a1n v\u00e0 t\u1eadn h\u01b0\u1edfng n\u00f3 h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n

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Ba b\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u01b0a \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t l\u1eddi khen hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng<\/span><\/h2>\n

C\u00f3 r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0a \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t l\u1eddi khen hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 v\u00e0 ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p \u0111\u1ebfn v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb hay c\u1ea3 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh, d\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 c\u00e1c b\u01b0\u1edbc m\u00e0 UTS g\u1ee3i \u00fd \u0111\u1ec3 th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh khen ng\u1ee3i hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3:<\/p>\n

B\u01af\u1edaC 1: Th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n s\u1ef1 t\u00e1n th\u00e0nh, c\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn th\u00f4ng qua k\u1ebft h\u1ee3p l\u1eddi n\u00f3i v\u00e0 ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef c\u01a1 th\u1ec3<\/strong><\/p>\n

V\u00ed d\u1ee5: b\u1ea1n gi\u01a1 ng\u00f3n tay c\u00e1i (thumbs up) v\u00e0 n\u00f3i \u201cCon l\u00e0m b\u00e0i t\u1eadp t\u1ed1t l\u1eafm!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

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B\u01af\u1edaC 2: M\u00f4 t\u1ea3 c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3 h\u00e0nh vi t\u00edch c\u1ef1c m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n th\u1ea5y<\/strong><\/p>\n

V\u00ed d\u1ee5: \u201cM\u1eb9 th\u1ea5y vui v\u00ec h\u00f4m nay ngo\u00e0i ho\u00e0n th\u00e0nh b\u00e0i t\u1eadp, con \u0111\u00e3 gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n Kh\u00e1nh l\u00e0m b\u00e0i khi b\u1ea1n \u0111ang c\u00f2n loay hoay.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

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B\u01af\u1edaC 3: Gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng c\u1ee7a h\u00e0nh vi t\u00edch c\u1ef1c \u0111\u00f3 l\u00ean c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n h\u1ecdc sinh v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi xung quanh<\/strong><\/p>\n

V\u00ed d\u1ee5: \u201cB\u1ea1n Kh\u00e1nh s\u1ebd r\u1ea5t vui v\u00e0 t\u1ef1 tin h\u01a1n khi c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 c\u1ee7a con. H\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a con h\u00f4m nay r\u1ea5t \u0111\u00e1ng t\u1ef1 h\u00e0o!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

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Th\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng, ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd ch\u1ec9 d\u1eebng l\u1ea1i b\u01b0\u1edbc s\u1ed1 (1). Tuy nhi\u00ean, b\u01b0\u1edbc s\u1ed1 (2) v\u00e0 s\u1ed1 (3) m\u1edbi ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng nh\u00e2n t\u1ed1 ch\u00ednh t\u1ea1o n\u00ean m\u1ed9t \u201cl\u1eddi khen hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3\u201d. M\u1ed9t l\u1eddi khen ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh v\u1edbi c\u1ea3m x\u00fac ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ebfn t\u1eeb m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh s\u1ebd lu\u00f4n l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec3m t\u1ef1a tinh th\u1ea7n v\u1eefng ch\u1eafc cho b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 ai nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u00f3.<\/p>\n

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M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ki\u1ec3u khen ng\u1ee3i kh\u00f4ng hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 th\u01b0\u1eddng g\u1eb7p<\/span><\/h2>\n

Khen ng\u1ee3i v\u1ec1 ph\u1ea9m ch\u1ea5t c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n. C\u0169ng theo nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u c\u1ee7a Gi\u00e1o s\u01b0 Carol Susan Dweck<\/em>, nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi khen ca ng\u1ee3i ph\u1ea9m ch\u1ea5t c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n, ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 tr\u00ed th\u00f4ng minh kh\u00f4ng hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 v\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ph\u1ea3n t\u00e1c d\u1ee5ng. Khen ng\u1ee3i m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb v\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea9m ch\u1ea5t v\u1ed1n c\u00f3 (v\u00ed d\u1ee5: \u201cCon th\u00f4ng minh l\u1eafm\u201d) kh\u00f4ng cho tr\u1ebb bi\u1ebft c\u1ee5 th\u1ec3 tr\u1ebb \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m t\u1ed1t \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec ho\u1eb7c n\u00ean l\u00e0m g\u00ec \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n. M\u1eb7c d\u00f9 th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn k\u1ef9 n\u0103ng c\u1ee7a tr\u1ebb kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u x\u1ea5u nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u00f3 ch\u01b0a ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 l\u1eddi khen ng\u1ee3i hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3.<\/p>\n

L\u1eddi khen thi\u1ebfu s\u1ef1 ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh. Tr\u1ebb em tuy nh\u1ecf, nh\u01b0ng ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ph\u00e2n bi\u1ec7t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1eddi khen ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh hay kh\u00f4ng. Khen ng\u1ee3i m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb v\u00ec \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 ch\u00fang kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m ho\u1eb7c ph\u00f3ng \u0111\u1ea1i h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o ra t\u00e1c d\u1ee5ng ph\u1ee5 ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c trong t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai.<\/p>\n

Khen-qu\u00e1-th\u01b0\u1eddng-xuy\u00ean. \u0110i\u1ec1u g\u00ec qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng t\u1ed1t, khen ng\u1ee3i tr\u1ebb qu\u00e1 th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u v\u00e0o s\u1ef1 c\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn t\u1eeb b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i. Nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u l\u1eddi khen ng\u1ee3i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u00ecnh th\u00e0nh n\u1ed7i s\u1ee3 th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i, t\u1eeb \u0111\u00f3 tr\u1ebb s\u1ebd \u00edt d\u00e1m th\u1eed nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u1edbi. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 l\u00fd do t\u1ea1i sao ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i c\u00e2n b\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c khen ng\u1ee3i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi g\u00f3p \u00fd th\u1eb3ng th\u1eafn, tr\u1ecdng t\u00e2m v\u00e0 chi ti\u1ebft.<\/p>\n

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Th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh khen hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 v\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0a l\u1eddi khen \u0111\u1ebfn tr\u1ebb<\/span><\/h2>\n

D\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 v\u00ed d\u1ee5 l\u1eddi khen \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u00e1p d\u1ee5ng c\u00f4ng th\u1ee9c 3 b\u01b0\u1edbc n\u00eau \u1edf tr\u00ean, :<\/p>\n